The last several months I have been really annoyed with a girl I know. Some of my friends and I would end up talking about how she is "one of those girls" who was constantly seeking attention from guys and not living up to how Christ wants us to live. I would watch in disgust as she would come on to our guy friends. In my mind, I was better than her. I was judging her.
But (and there's always a "but" in human judgment)I recently found out more about her. All of her extended family are not Christians. Her dad's side is going through a death in the family. I started to cry when I heard this. She asked for heart-felt prayers on the behalf of her whole family.
There's always more to story. I judged her before walking a mile in her shoes. I deeply regret my hurtful thoughts and gossip towards her.
Everyone has a story. There is a reason behind what a person does. I hope that we begin to have "grace-filled" eyes as we evaluate one another.
Saturday, April 3, 2010
Saturday, March 27, 2010
Girls Retreat
A week ago, I was in charge of a high school girls' retreat. We talked about a woman's indentity and desires and what that really means for our everyday lives.
For the longest time, I have struggled with the desire for a man in my life- someone to complete me. Until recently, I thought that once I had a boyfriend/husband I would feel complete and more satisfied with my life. So many of my friends think this way. They may not say it "flat out" like me, but its definitely hinted in their words. "Why can't I have a boyfriend like everyone else?" and "My boyfriend and I should just get married. Then everything would be alot better." Or in their actions. It hurts to see a friend go through a cycle of boyfriends all because she's looking for fulfillment.
This is a lie. No person can truly fill that role for someone else, and its dangerous to have expectations that someone else can fulfill your deepest desires.
Only Christ can do this.
I am learning this again and again. It's a process. God and I are on a journey together. He surprises me with new thoughts on the subject of fulfillment all the time. I am excited to learn my next lesson from Him.
For the longest time, I have struggled with the desire for a man in my life- someone to complete me. Until recently, I thought that once I had a boyfriend/husband I would feel complete and more satisfied with my life. So many of my friends think this way. They may not say it "flat out" like me, but its definitely hinted in their words. "Why can't I have a boyfriend like everyone else?" and "My boyfriend and I should just get married. Then everything would be alot better." Or in their actions. It hurts to see a friend go through a cycle of boyfriends all because she's looking for fulfillment.
This is a lie. No person can truly fill that role for someone else, and its dangerous to have expectations that someone else can fulfill your deepest desires.
Only Christ can do this.
I am learning this again and again. It's a process. God and I are on a journey together. He surprises me with new thoughts on the subject of fulfillment all the time. I am excited to learn my next lesson from Him.
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